Giving Love

Do you really know what love is or do you only have an idea which was formed by society? Love is far from what you may think. The idea of love is beautiful comforting in many ways but my first question to you. Is it possible to love someone the correct way if you have not fully taken control of loving yourself correctly first? Okay, let’s make a list how do you treat yourself? Do you show yourself all the needed attention you deserve correct grooming, take better care of your health and give yourself what’s needed to live a functional life. Let me give you examples how can you show someone proper love if you lack taking care of yourself? You can’t bring someone into your world if you have not first formed an atmosphere you can survive in. When I was a young adult I desperately wanted a boyfriend looking back on it I had nothing to offer him. I wanted someone to share my world with me that I had not quite formed correctly for myself (sound crazy right)? Here’s another example. If you don’t have a job, a stable place to stay, a clean body and mind how could you dare want someone to trust that you will love them when you show all the signs of lacking love for yourself? It’s like saying, “Come be a part of my dysfunctional life so I can try and play out my idea of what love is for you.” Sounds completely crazy right? Well guess what it is crazy.  You want another human to stay with you and you’re abusive mentally and physically how is that love? You want them to stay but you can’t help provide a good life style with them: (Very interesting) need I say the least. You want a virgin but you have thousands of partners and you want honesty but you lie. How can you want a particular love that you are not first practicing with yourself?? Anyway before you reach out to bring someone in your world of (crazy love) please make sure you actually have more to offer than just your idea of what love is because when you venture out to expand your love to someone they will first trust your offered love by viewing how you love yourself. Loving yourself first takes knowing who you are to God and who he is to you. You should always want the best for yourself which does not mean you have to be filthy rich, drive the most amazing car and wear glitter shoes. It just means respecting yourself and acknowledging your true essence of life here on earth. Have control of your life and individual world don’t allow others to treat you badly, don’t except what this society has to offer you always strive and fight for more because you deserve better. You were not put here to be unhappy. I once always looked to love someone try to give out love and I constantly failed at it because I was not first fully loving myself. I can’t want a man to treat me like a Queen if I treating myself peasant. I now understand a person will not believe what you say if you never stick to your word. A man will treat you like a slut if you act as such. Respect is given and received when you first respect yourself to all love yourself first and then you can master the art of loving someone else correctly. Do you know what unconditional love is? We will discuss that on next week’s post. Love you all

 

Your Purpose

We all have a purpose with the provided help from your father (God) you can gain the gift of knowing your purpose and living it out. As an adolescent I struggled with depression I had what you would call a generational curse I spent majority of my time hidden in my room, eating badly and struggling with my appearance. I’ve always had an idea of whom God was I knew he created the earth and all things that reside on it but what I didn’t know was why he created me. I wondered and questioned my reason for being created majority of my life. I felt as if my presences was not needed me being created was in vain and I served no purpose on this earth I felt that way throughout Middle school all the way till the end of High school. After High school things got a little better for me I started to come out of my shell. Little did I know what waited for me after climbing out of this shell! I found myself looking for love in all the wrong places trying to be defined by my boyfriend other individuals that I called my friends but truly were not my friends. I suffered for years all because I allowed suffering in my life I never lost sight of the fact that God is the one and only creator I just ran from my father and tried to make my own way without him. I've learned in my 28 years of living that all humans have this one thing in common that they will disappoint each other in one way or another and with that knowledge I learned to trust God 100% I know he will not turn his back on me through his son I have eternal life. I fell upon so many hardships putting my all into other sources besides God. Being lost and lacking knowledge of who you are is a very scary way to live. It’s like driving a car and not knowing what any of the safety signs on the road mean. I created friendships without consulting with God, I created a child without consulting with God and I even took a huge step and married without asking my father is this what he wants for me I lived my life footloose and hard headed. Not until I decided to trust God and accept that I cannot live my life let alone make any decisions without conformation from him did start to really live and not just exist. After suffering through years of frustration and pain from those I loved the most, did I realize that no amount of happiness worldly living gives me will amount to the true love and happiness God had in store for me! God is my real and only true love through him I learned that he does not want me to be in love with the things or people he bless me with or provide for me on earth he does want me to love everyone unconditionally. But, before you love others unconditionally what about yourself? I had to go to God with my heart ready to receive him cry out for forgiveness for my trespasses and ask for help with forgiving my trespassers. I had to be delivered from self-hate and later I will discuss all the different levels and ways self-hate can take over your life without you even realizing it. After doing this which took years and it was not easy did I get to the place I am now, I finally recognize and fully understand who God is creating me to be I am a creation in his image and my purpose will be served through pleasing him and seeking him! I do stress this to you and to myself as well as you grow in Christ you will begin to know more and more about who you are but you must seek him because who you are is hidden in your mighty Father. By me seeking God continuously and crying out to him he finally revealed a portion of my purpose and that is to be a service to his people after I was blessed with the wisdom and heart of loving unconditionally I realized im supposed to assist those that feel as if the world has turned its back on them and to lead them in a better direction the right Direction to God and his son. Field of Vision Family resources is here to service the community in more way than one.