Giving Love

Do you really know what love is or do you only have an idea which was formed by society? Love is far from what you may think. The idea of love is beautiful comforting in many ways but my first question to you. Is it possible to love someone the correct way if you have not fully taken control of loving yourself correctly first? Okay, let’s make a list how do you treat yourself? Do you show yourself all the needed attention you deserve correct grooming, take better care of your health and give yourself what’s needed to live a functional life. Let me give you examples how can you show someone proper love if you lack taking care of yourself? You can’t bring someone into your world if you have not first formed an atmosphere you can survive in. When I was a young adult I desperately wanted a boyfriend looking back on it I had nothing to offer him. I wanted someone to share my world with me that I had not quite formed correctly for myself (sound crazy right)? Here’s another example. If you don’t have a job, a stable place to stay, a clean body and mind how could you dare want someone to trust that you will love them when you show all the signs of lacking love for yourself? It’s like saying, “Come be a part of my dysfunctional life so I can try and play out my idea of what love is for you.” Sounds completely crazy right? Well guess what it is crazy.  You want another human to stay with you and you’re abusive mentally and physically how is that love? You want them to stay but you can’t help provide a good life style with them: (Very interesting) need I say the least. You want a virgin but you have thousands of partners and you want honesty but you lie. How can you want a particular love that you are not first practicing with yourself?? Anyway before you reach out to bring someone in your world of (crazy love) please make sure you actually have more to offer than just your idea of what love is because when you venture out to expand your love to someone they will first trust your offered love by viewing how you love yourself. Loving yourself first takes knowing who you are to God and who he is to you. You should always want the best for yourself which does not mean you have to be filthy rich, drive the most amazing car and wear glitter shoes. It just means respecting yourself and acknowledging your true essence of life here on earth. Have control of your life and individual world don’t allow others to treat you badly, don’t except what this society has to offer you always strive and fight for more because you deserve better. You were not put here to be unhappy. I once always looked to love someone try to give out love and I constantly failed at it because I was not first fully loving myself. I can’t want a man to treat me like a Queen if I treating myself peasant. I now understand a person will not believe what you say if you never stick to your word. A man will treat you like a slut if you act as such. Respect is given and received when you first respect yourself to all love yourself first and then you can master the art of loving someone else correctly. Do you know what unconditional love is? We will discuss that on next week’s post. Love you all